This pancocojams post presents some historical and cultural information and commentary about the use of the name "Becky" as a referent for White women.
This post also presents some cultural information and commentary about the phrase "Becky with the good hair". In particular, this post documents the use of "Becky with the good hair" in a May 16, 2021 Instagram written by African American former NBA professional basketball player Kwame Brown as a putdown of another former NBA player Matt Barnes who is light skinned.
The content of this post is presented for linguistic and socio-cultural purposes.
**** BACKGROUND: WHAT THE NAME "BECKY" MEANS IN AFRICAN AMERICAN CULTURE "Miss Ann" is a much older African American referent for White women that carried (and still carries) negative connotations of White women who are stiff, prudish, and respectable [in the opinion of White people].
The use of "Becky" as a referent for White women in general and/or as a referent for a sub-category of White women was popularized in the 1992 by Hip Hop artist Sir Mix A Lot's hit record "Baby Got Back". The first words in that song are voiced by a young White woman who stands with her silent White friend Becky staring at a Black woman in the distance. Using Valley Girl lingo and pronunciation, the unnamed White women criticizes that Black woman's big butt.
[Intro] Oh, my, god. Becky, look at her butt. It is so big. [scoff] She looks like one of those rap guys' girlfriends. But, you know, who understands those rap guys? [scoff] They only talk to her, because, she looks like a total prostitute, 'kay? I mean, her butt, is just so big. I can't believe it's just so round, it's like, out there, I mean— gross. Look! She's just so... black!"
The woman speaking in that introduction used "Valley Girl" pronunciation for those words. Here's information about "Valley Girls" from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valley_girl "A Valley girl is a socioeconomic, linguistic,
and youth subcultural stereotype and stock character originating during the
1980s: any materialistic upper-middle-class young woman, associated with unique
vocal and California dialect features, from the Los Angeles commuter
communities of the San Fernando Valley.[1] The term in later years became more
broadly applied to any female in the United States who embodied ditziness"...
In 2016 Beyonce popularized the phrase "Becky with the good hair" in her song "Lemonade". That referent has come to mean either a White woman, or a Black woman who is mixed (has one birth parent who is Black and one who is non-Black), or a light skinned Black woman, or a woman who is not Black and is also not White (for instance a Latina or a woman from India.) Presumably, all of these women would have so-called "good hair", meaning hair whose texture (curl pattern) is the same as or similar to the curl patterns of White people.
Here's information about the meaning of the term "good hair" as it unfortunately was used in the past and is still used by many African Americans:
A popular* term in the African-American community, used to describe an black person's hair that closely resembles the hair of a typical white person (i.e. soft, managable, long, as opposed to "nappy" or "bad" hair). The closer your hair is to a white person's, the "better" your hair is. See: "bad hair".
Note: Most people who use this term would never admit the inferiority complex from which it came. Ignorant Aunt Zykeshia: "Lord-Jeezus! Girl, you gots dat good hair! It long, curly and booootiful!" -by Little Lauren May 17, 2005 -snip- *I think that "widely used" fits better than the word "popular".
" "Good hair" is a phrase used in some black
communities to describe the perceived prestige of straight or loosely curled
hair, especially when genetically influenced by non-African ancestry, in
contrast to Afro-textured hair. "Good Hair" is also used to refer to
hair that is strong, thick and soft to the touch.
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Although
many hair stylists or beauticians would define "good hair" to mean
"healthy hair", the phrase is rarely used in this manner in informal
African-American circles. Instead it is used metaphorically to characterize
beauty and acceptance. These standards vary for African-American men and women."...
Regardless of Beyonce's implied meaning/s of "Becky with the good hair", it appears to me that the most widely used online meaning of "Becky" after Beyonce's 2016 "Lemonade" song is "a White woman".
**** INFORMATION ABOUT FORMER NBA PLAYER KWAME BROWN'S USE OF THE SAYING "BECKY WITH THE GOOD HAIR" AS A PUTDOWN FOR A LIGHT SKINNED BLACK MALE From https://brobible.com/sports/article/kwame-brown-stephen-jackson-matt-barnes-gilbert-arenas/ "Former Laker Kwame Brown Rips Stephen Jackson, Matt Barnes,
And Gilbert Arenas To Shreds In Profane Rant" by Joge Alonso, May 17, 2021
[Pancocojams Editor's Note: Warning: This article and Instagram includes profanity. Those examples of profanity aren't included in this ncluded in this pancocojams post.]
"Kwame Brown has a bone to pick* with Stephen Jackson, Matt
Barnes and Gilbert Arenas.
Earlier this week, Arenas was a guest on Showtime’s “All the
Smoke” hosted by Jackson and Barnes. In the interview, Arenas talked about
Brown, who he played with during his early years with the Wizards.
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The 39-year-old Brown made a Youtube video to respond to the podcast. In the video, Brown disrespectfully calls Barnes “Becky with the good hair”, tells Jackson to put down his blunt and “act like a grown man instead of a little boy”. and accused Arenas of costing him millions of dollars via contracts.
....Becky with the good hair, go to counseling...
Becky with the good hair you better shut you’re m---f----** mouth, cause I don’t like the way you started this sh-t** and that better be the last time you mention my name Becky."... -snip- *Here's information about the meaning of the colloquial American phrase "having a bone to pick":
**These words are fully spelled out in this instagram.
**** PANCOCOJAMS NOTES ABOUT THIS USE OF "BECKY WITH THE GOOD HAIR" [Revised May 23, 2021] Kwame Brown's use of the female name "Becky" as a referent for a man is disrespectful in and of itself because males usually don't like to be referred to as females.
In African American culture "Becky" has become an informal, insulting general referent for White woman. That meaning as a racial connotation to Kwame Brown's use of "Becky with the good hair", particularly seen the Matt Barnes, the man he referred to, is a light skinned Black man who has hair that many Black people consider/ed "good hair" (since light skinned Black people are often of mixed racial ancestry [Black and non-Black] and often have hair whose hair texture is similar to the hair textures that most White people have).
That said, some brown skinned African Americans and other brown skinned people of Black African descent may also have so-called "good hair" (meaning "hair like White people". They may have these types of hair textures because of their non-Black (i.e. "mixed") racial ancestry via one of their parents, or one or both of their grand parents, or earlier grandparents.
I happened upon an article about Kwame Brown's May 16, 2021 Instagram post that is the focus of this post because Kwame Brown's name was in the top ten twitter accounts that were trending in the United States on May 17, 2021 (as of 12 PM). I'm not including a link to that twitter account because pancocojams is a family friendly blog and the content of that twitter account includes a lot of profanity. In addition, that twitter account also includes a number of tweets that have what is commonly known as the "n word" as well as other words that may be objectionable for children. It also appears to me that many of the commenters in that twitter account considered what Kwame Brown said as something "humorous" and commendable. For instance, there were comments about "shots fired" by Kwame Brown (meaning insults sent by Kwame Brown to those other men) and comments about Kwame getting bodies (meaning he "verbally" shot those people with his insults).
**** Kwame Brown's use of "Becky" as a referent for a Black person isn't the first time that I found that name being used as a referent for a light skinned Black person. Here's a comment exchange from
...In Lemonade Beyonce not only calls out Jay-Z’s cheating, she frames that cheating as being about race when she sings, “Better call Becky with the good hair.” The term “Becky” in African American lingua franca marks whiteness; and good hair suggests someone who is mixed or not quite black. In this way, Jay’s betrayal is not just a betrayal of the heart, it’s a betrayal of her as a black woman. It’s very clear from Lemonade that the “character” of Jay Z is cheating largely because he is interested in a lighter woman with straighter her, a less black woman. This is a vital part of understanding the symbolic logic of this masterwork....
Here's a comment exchange from that daily kos.com article:
terrypinder Apr 26 · 07:55:35 PM "Why does everyone assume Becky is white?
Does no one watch Empire?"
** PurposelyPolemical terrypinder Apr 26 · 07:57:42 PM "I watch Empire...but I’m at a loss. Who is the black Becky on there? Remind? lol"
** terrypinder PurposelyPolemical Apr 26 · 08:13:34 PM "Gabourey Sidibe’s character :)" -snip- Pancocojams editor's note: terrypinder is obviously joking with that comment as Gabourey Sidibe is a dark skinned Black actress. The character on the television series Empire who might be considered a Black Becky is "Anika", portrayed by (light skinned) African American actress Grace Gealey.
This is Part I of a four part pancocojams series about current (as of October 2016) attitudes among African Americans about the word "nappy".
Part I highlights a 2015 vlog (video blog) about a second apology that African American comedian Sheryl Underwood made on a CBS talk show where she is co-host about comments that she had made on that show in 2012 disparaging "nappy" hair. Selected comments from that video's discussion thread are also included in this post.
Click http://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2016/10/articles-about-black-natural-hair.html for Part II of this series. Part II provides information about the Black natural hair movement in the United States, France, Ivory Coast, and Brazil. Information about the Black natural hair type classification system that appears to be widely used by African American natural hair care professionals and African Americans with natural hair styles is also included in one of these articles.
Click http://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2016/10/hip-hop-group-nappy-roots-song-po-folks.html for Part IV of this series. Part IV highlights the Hip Hop group Nappy Roots and their 2002 hit song "Po' Folks"'. Selected comments from the discussion thread of a video of that song are included in that post.
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Other pancocojams posts on the word "nappy" will be published periodically. Click the tag "nappy" or "natural hair" for links to previous posts and new posts.
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PANCOCOJAMS EDITOR'S COMMENT [late October 2016]
In February 2013 I published a pancocojams post about "Good Hair & Bad Hair (Black Attitudes About Our Hair) http://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2013/02/good-hair-bad-hair-black-attitudes.html in which I shared my memories about the terms "good and bad" hair as used by Black people in New Jersey in the 1950s and 1960s. I also commented in that post that few children and teenagers in my adopted hometown of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania wore their hair in natural hairstyles.
Writing this in late October 2016, I definitely would say that there's been a large increase in the number of Black females wearing natural hairstyles. Wearing long natural (looking) braid extensions and curly/twist natural styles (where the non-straightened hair is braided at night, and the braids are eventually taken out [as early as the next morning, but usually days later] and the hair is worn that way without combing), and other natural hair styles have become the norm for a considerable number of African American females - particularly girls ages about six years old to women under fifty years of age - not just in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania but apparently throughout the United States. Many of these styles are made by adding braids or twists made from synthetic hair to females's own hair. Dreadlocks (locs) and certain other natural hairstyles have also become relatively common for African American males (particularly teens and young adults). As noted by those different age ranges, it seems to me that natural hairstyles (including extensions) are worn more often by African American females than by African American males.
My interest in natural hairstyles in general and in the African American meaning of the word "nappy" was revived in October 2016 when I published a post on the latest Hip Hop dance craze "Juju On The Beat" http://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2016/10/what-does-juju-on-that-beat-and-tm.html. In that record, the rapper talks about how he "Walked in this party/And these girls lookin' at me/Skinny jeans on and you know my hair nappy".
Those lyrics motivated me to find out when and how "nappy hair" become a part of African American young folk's urban swag. I therefore thank the singers/composers of "Juju On The Beat" Zay Hilfiger and Zayion McCall for inspiring this four part pancocojams post.
On Monday’s premiere episode of the new season of The Talk, comedian Sheryl Underwood revealed her natural hair and apologized for disparaging comments she made regarding kinky hair.
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I'm highlighting this vlog because of the discussion about Black people's hair that it prompted and not to focus on the 2012 statements that Sheryl Underwood is apologizing for. However, to briefly summarize those statements, during a show featuring celebrity Heidi Klum as a guest, Ms. Klum (a White women who has adopted two mixed racial children who have some Black ancestry) shared that when she cut her children's hair for the first time, she saved their hair as mementos. Sheryl Underwood made disparaging comments about nappy hair, negatively comparing those hair textures with naturally straight hair.
As a correction that was made by several commenters, The Talk series on which Sheyrl Underwood is a co-host is on CBS and not ABC as the vlogger stated.
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SELECTED COMMENTS FROM THAT VIDEO'S DISCUSSION THREAD
These videos are given in chronological order based on their publishing date with the oldest comments by year given first, except for replies. However, these comments may not be in consecutive order.
I've assigned numbers to these comments for referencing purposes only. Brief explanatory comments are included after some of these quoted comments.
As per my policy on this blog, profanity (except for the word "damn") is given in amended form only.
2015
1. AshleyMorgan
"Some of these people forget the way they felt about their hair before they accepted their self whole heartedly. I know how much ignorant statements I made about black hair before I fell in love with it. So don't forget how you once were. Good for her!"
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"Some of these people" refers to those who are critical of the statements that Sheryl Underwood made about (most) Black people's natural hair. In the statement "Good for her!", "her" refers to Sheryl Underwood for apologizing and deciding to wear her hair natural (Note that Ms. Underwood indicated that she would also wear wigs because she likes to "change up" how she wears her hair.)
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2. TheGanation
"right! a lot of us weren't raised to love our natural hair."
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3. ronniemonnie
"Not me! I always loved black natural hair."
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4. AshleyMorgan
"+ronniemonnie You are one in a million. Thats awesome that it was like that for you but for many we were taught to use a perm because our hair isn't manageable. It was a process for many but fortunately for me it was a quick one when I began to see the acceptance. I will tell you this, going through the phases like the big chop and watching your hair grow, taking the time out to treat it, style it, and rock it, it helps you build your confidence and also makes you appreciate and love your hair. I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeee my hair now and you can not tell me anything about it especially when the fro is picked out!!!!! MANNNNNNN LISTEN LMAOO"
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"Big chop"- "Big chop is the process of cutting off the relaxed or permed ends of one's hair when [a female] is transitioning from chemically processed hair to natural hair." http://www.naturallycurly.com/topics/view/big-chop-transitioning
'fro = afro (also called a "natural" in the USA since the 1960s). An afro ('fro) can be a hair style, or a number of natural hairstyles. But, people with afros can style their hair or have their hair styled in different ways that have their own names. Click http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/kinky-hair-type-4a/21-popular-natural-hairstyles/ for the article "21 Most Popular Natural Hair Styles"
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5. Chanda Chansa
"+AshleyMorgan
Am African and I don't understand some things: Why is black hair a sensitive topic for black Americans?"
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6. Chanda Chansa
"+Tiffany Williams
A lot of African women wear weaves as-well but black hair is not an issue there. Thanks for your explanation."
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Given the comments that I've read in various online YouTube (and other) discussion threads about the changing attitudes about natural hair in various African nations, I'm not sure that I agree with the blogger that
"black [people's natural] hair is not an issue" for "a lot of African women". I wish that the blogger had given the nation she was referring to.
"Weaves" = females wearing usually synthetic hair that is attached to their hair by braiding, sewing, glue or other ways
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7. AshleyMorgan, 2016
"+Chanda Chansa I feel it is such a sensitive topic not only because of the history but in modern day america we are told on a daily basis that out hair is not professional, it looks unkept, it looks nappy, etc. There are some companies and people that will not hire you solely based on your hair. We have been told that in order to fit in we have to conform to their standard of beauty because that is the only standard. Now many of us have taken measures to embrace and whole heartedly love ourself for who we are but then you have others who still haven't fully embraced who they are. …because …not all of us grew up being told that our hair is beautiful. Many of us don't even remember having our natural hair as children. It's deeper then this but If I try to explain it we will be here all day! lol I hope you are having a great day though!"
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This comment included the ...'s.
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8. coolingwinds, 2016
"I agree with pretty much everything you said. Back when the natural hair movement was just getting started, I was hanging on to my relaxer with both hands and all my might! Now I am happy to report that I've been natural since roughly 2007. It took me a long time to embrace it in myself let alone others because I came from that generation of relaxing, weaving, wig wearing black women. I recognize myself in her, and it's all good now that she's gone through her transition. People have to remember that's how many of us came up. As far as I'm concerned, all is forgiven. I'm just so glad that she now loves what God gave us, and she is beautiful!
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"going through her transition" = changing from wearing one's hair chemically treated or straightened (also known as "relaxed"; "permed", "done") with heat (a hot comb placed in fire or an electric iron) to wearing one's hair naturally.
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9. Nita Carter
"Omg this make me want to cry, cause I struggle with a lot with my hair. All my life my hair was always short, I'm not ashamed of my beautiful nappy natural hair, It's just I'm a big fan of weave so much that I forgot how beautiful natural nappy black hair is. I was never a girl who say disrespectful things about my race hair, I actually love seeing black woman wearing and showing their hair out no matter how it is or look, I love my race hair, cause we can do soooooo much with it. (And for the people that think black woman hair don't grow or say disrespectful things is crazy and f&&king* stupid cause it does grow and we actually have beautiful hair it's different), my hair today is near my neck and I love it, the other day I was thinking about taking my weave out but seeing this video got me like what m'I doing. If we see more videos like this, it will courage more black woman as myself to appreciate a lot of things about black beauty. By the way we shouldn't get defended if people say our hair is nappy because we have beautiful nappy hair that's just how our hair is and I love it. so f&&k* thoses who think nappy hair is a disgrace."
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10. Jada Lee, 2016
"yes! ppl dont understand why im proud to say i have nappy hair. "nappy" is only as insulting as you make it. stay strong girl!"
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11. shortmonee 312
"Unfortunately, most (over 50%) of black American women hate their hair. I've noticed lately though a lot of sistas are going natural, and I hope the trend continues"
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12. imshrrj
"+shortmonee 312 This is true, but we're taught to hate our hair...By guess who??? grandma and aunties.. The things my family use to say about hair..just terrible"
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This is an excerpt of that comment.
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13. O-Ren Ishii
...[screen name of person this comment was written in response to] "everybody can't rock every natural hairstyle but I think everybody can pull off at least one of them. Everybody can't pull off the natural baby bush like Sheryl."
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"Bush" is a term that I remember being used in the mid 1960s (in Atlantic city, N.J) for short round shaped afros that Black male and Black females had. Since at least the 1990s, a much more widely used referent for a short afro ('fro) is "TWA" ("teeny weeny afro"). Women who do the "big chop" (read above) usually end up with a TWA. A number of women who have their chemically/heat permed hair chopped off, "rock" (wear) wigs until their natural hair grows a little longer than "twa" or until they learn to do different hairstyles with their short natural.
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14. Sharon Reid Robinson
...[screen name of person this comment was written in response to] "FREE COUTRY....NO PERSON CAN TELL ANOTHER HOW THEY SHOULD WEAR THEIR HAIR. IT IS AS SIMPLE AS THAT. SHE MADE A MISTAKE IBY SAYING WHAT SHE SAID. I AM PRESENTLY WEARING MY OWN HAIR. I WEAR PERM, WIG, WEVE BECAUSE I LIKE VARIETY. MY HAIR CAME OUT BECAUSE OF SOME MED I HAD TO TAKE...I WORE A WIG...LOVED IT!!! WILL WEAR MY HAIR AS I WISH...DON'T THINK BLACK HAIR IS NASTY...I HAVE WHAT I CALL NAPPY PRIDE NO MATTER HOW I WEAR MY HEAR."
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15. MzVan21
"Wish more black women wear their natural hair...don't get wrong I like a sew in every now and then but Nothing like my hair that I was born with.yes I get tired of it sometimes,yes it takes a while to style etc but I wouldn't change it. its curly,thick, course.Black hair is DIFFERENT from any other texture..to me that's a great blessing. that we should embrace."
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"a sew in" - one way to attach synthetic or real hair to your hair
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16. Paris OfPhrance
"I'm on YouTube everyday it's not that different anymore lol follow naturallyshesdope on ig....very common"
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This is the complete comment.
"ig" = instagram (social media)
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17. Edward Lewis
"+MzVan21 Actually is getting more and more common everyday I mean literally my mom, two aunts and grandmother are natural."
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18. MzVan21
"+Edward Lewis I feel like it is definitely trending which is great,just hopes it sticks"
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19. NatuRealistic87 VeryKinkyCurl
"Also trending for white ppl to try to mock the afro & swear up and down that they have "black ppl hair"...but I do agree with u it is different & very unique."
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20. natrulyvivacious
"I don't have kinky hair but if I did I would be proud as Jesus has the same kind of hair biblically written even though they try to portray him with straight white people hair.
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"Kinky" is often used as a synonym for "nappy". However, some people in the natural hair care movement indicate that "kinky" is a different type of hair pattern than "nappy".
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21. TheKendroShow
"sadly the negative attitude towards natural hair is active and has a lengthy history. it takes some people time to wake up and I'm glad she did. fro looks real nice on her. all is forgiven"
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22. mashonda Knight
"As a black women I'm so tired about the whole hair debate people need to stop shaming people for how and what they do to their hair if they want to wear their natural, perm,weave, braids, fine I wish everyone would stop telling everyone what to do with their hair I say as long as it looks great so what I don't wear wigs, braids or weave and those things are nice I've seen people look nice in them and that's their choice but I do perm my hair and I like it ,I just think when it comes to hair that topic should be off limits! !"
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23. AmethystUniverse
"She looks gorgeous with her TWA :) and she seems really sincere this time around and I forgive her as well! #naturalhairrocks"
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Sheryl Underwood had apologized for her remarks disparaging Black natural hair in 2012 shortly after she made those remarks. This second apology was given during the nationally televised talk show where she is co-hosts with four other women.
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24. Africa Love
"I agree she seems more sincere "this time""
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25. Jamaican Diaspora
"I am happy to be nappy! No Korean is going to feed and cloth their children with my money from those nasty beauty supply stores in Black communities.
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Throughout the USA, for some reason/s, Koreans a have monopoly on Black hair care salons.
"I'm happy to be nappy" is a rather widely used saying, particularly among "naturalistas" (Black natural hair adherents). That saying was coined by bell hooks in her 1999 children's book with that title.
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26. patricia pritchett
"It's so crazy to me how 'my people' (not all, but many) think our hair is 'nappy', 'nasty', 'ugly', ect... I cant tell you HOW MUCH other races think that it's beautiful! Can't tell you how many times in a day they want to touch it, and compliment its beauty. I love mine!!! Hope that she is really embracing its UNIQUENESS..."
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27. Morris Pitts
"When did it become" brave" for Black women to wear they're natural hair ? I think you have to be brave to wear some of these F&&ked* Up wigs and weaves I see everyday."...
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28. Dark Witch
"+Morris Pitts Not all wigs and weaves look f&&ked up, unless you can not afford better or your ghetto as all out doors! I wear my hair natural but I like variety too. I would prefer that all black women go natural but they do not need to be limited, especially when many jobs frown on natural hair. We have to be versatile and wear many faces in this society. But yes, underneath it all a women hair should be natural and we should feel just as comfortable wearing it that way too."
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29. Summers Journey
"+Morris Pitts I have natural hair, but why must a woman keep the same hairstyle? I find that boring. Part of the reason why I like natural hair is because it's so versatile. Sometimes I like to wear my hair in a fro, at other times I prefer more defined curls, and sometime I like to wear it straight. If I'm not in the mood to do my hair, I may throw on a wig, or get braids/twists."
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30. 827honey1
"She looks 100% prettier than she ever did wearing a weave or wig."
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31. sharp-jagger
"+827honey1 agreed. I did not criticize her in the past for VOLUNTARILY choosing to rock wigs, but I was shocked at her comments regarding natural hair. It seemed that there was this universal agreement that natural hair was synonymous with nappy and unkept. I think it took her some time to overcome the disparaging pre-programmed mindset of natural hair. She looks comfortable now."
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32. y tyler
"Thank you for uploading this video of Sheryl apologizing. As for her natural hair (the way she has it styled) looks uneven, some parts looks as if she tried twist it, some parts looks like she picked it out. This is not a TWA (teeny weeny afro), this is a mess.
Afros were in style when I (and Sheryl) was growing up and I never saw anyone at school, church, work, the supermarket or walking down the street, with an afro that wasn't perfect. Men would go to the barber shop and sit in that chair (for what seemed like an eternity) while the barber cut and snipped until the hair was in a perfect circle. Finally, he would spray the Afro Sheen on, and you knew you were ready for anything.
The girls, would plait their hair in four big plaits (or more if their hair was shorter) at night and then would take it out in the morning, tease it with a comb and then pick it out with a pick or pack it down into an even circular shape. Afro Sheen was sprayed on, and a thin layer of hair spray if needed. We looked so well-groomed. We even wore the pick in our hair so, if it got messed up, we could pick it back out to perfection. We took so much pride in our Afros, that non-black people wore their hair in afros, too.
I have never seen Sheryl wearing a wig that was cut, as uneven as her real hair is. So, she should come to the conclusion, that an even cut will make her natural hair look much better."...
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This is an excerpt of that comment. The blogger continued with off topic criticism about Sheryl’s weight and how the blogger thinks she acts on air.
"picked [her natural hair] out= used a wide tooth comb called an "afro pic" to comb out her natural
While I don't agree with the blogger's assessment that Sheryl Underwood's afro looks a mess, the blogger's comments about how people wore afros back in the day and plaited (braided) their hair at night etc. completely matches my memories of how African American females and males wore afros in the mid to late 1960s.
It seems to me that one of the greatest differences between afro hair styles in the late 1960s/1970s and afro styles in the 2000s is that it's considered stylish nowadays to wear afros out in public without combing the natural hair out while back in the day Black women (like me) who wore our hair in 'fros would always braid it at night so that the fro could be fuller, and not matted and then we'd take the braids out and "pic" (comb out) our hair before being seen in public- either outdoors or inside.
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33. Deborah Atkins-Denmark
"I forgive her, wholeheartedly. For a lot of us, the natural hair decision is a process, especially for us older sisters who were, from birth, taught to hate our hair. I believe she was both sincere and courageous. We should forgive her and embrace a new naturalista!!!"
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34. infinite1
"Why is everyone acting like we didn't go through hundreds of years of conditioning first? Our ancestors in this country had to adapt and conform to get us to a place today where we are alive and breathing. I never hated myself when I had a perm, it was what I knew because it was passed down from the former generations. I loved weave because it offered variety. As an older woman, it is the young who have really brought the natural hair forth and it is beautiful. Older woman like myself are still on a learning curve taking care of natural hair. Just 10 years ago, black men and women still shunned women with natural hair just like white people, so why in the hell, now that it is accepted everyone want to jumpn up and say you hate yourself for wearing your hair the only way you've known how for ages?"...
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This is an excerpt of this comment. The blogger continues by writing about how Black men need to stop hating each other and stop killing each other.
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35. kittenhoodie
"to be honest, a lot of African American women had the same negative views about natural hair. I can even say that I had negative views about natural hair for most of my life until about 6 years ago when I decided to transition. she was entitled to her opinion about it. I thought she was rude to Heidi Klum about her decision to hold onto her children's hair. if anything, she owed a huge apology to Heidi Klum because she was basically questioning aspects of her parenting. the women on "the talk" are very abrasive, and I wasn't interested in their views or that show way before underwood's natural hair controversy. the show is about differing views on current topics. we just aren't gonna agree with each other completely, and why would should we? some people question why it took her so long to basically come around to seeing how amazing our natural beauty is, and I think we should just appreciate that she in fact changed how she felt on the subject and move on. hell, raven-Symone says stuff on the view that it way more offensive and ignorant."
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36. kai kai
"i think her apology was full of sh&t!* saying black people hair is nasty is not a joke! i think she really felt that way why do you think black women wear tons of artificial white woman hair today...grown ass black woman all ways tell they children "yo hair so nappy! go flat earn it! ya head lookin a hot ass mess" for example blue ivy! black woman are dragging blue ivy through the mud just because they think her natural beautiful hair is "nappy". also why do 98.9% of black people think if a you have long curly hair that your mixed? why do i have to be mixed in order to have long hair? this also stems to why black people think mixed or "redbone" look best. all of this stuff have a deeper meaning!
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*This word was fully spelled out in this comment.
“flat earn it” = flat iron it” [iron hair= straighten [press] hair with a hot comb; a flat iron is a type of hot comb
"Blue Ivy" = Pop star Beyonce & Hip Hop star Jay Z's daughter
redbone = Black people who have a reddish hue to their light brown or "medium" brown skin color, usually because of racial mixture at some point in their ancestry
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37. Dark Witch
"+kai kai People need to forgive her because we all make mistakes, let's be f&&king* real! Blacks (with the exception of those who have always been natural)act as if they have always worn there hair natural knowing damn well that it is a self reflective process. Like you said, we should give our own people a chance to redeem themselves and forgive! The point is to lift our people up not tear them down ESPECIALLY if they are on the road to success. As a natural women, I can not stand when people tear down women who do wear weaves, and wigs or chemicals. We can be so unforgiving to our own people yet get made when other races are the same. That is called HYPOCRISY PEOPLE"
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*This word is fully spelled out in this comment.
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38. LuvJezula
"I forgive her, I think she's sincere. I see a lot of black women nowadays are embracing their natural hair or buying afro kinky textured weave. I hope that trend continues. yeah you are right when it comes to apologies. black people are quick to forgive white people when they say or do something racist but will be quick call a black person an uncle tom or coon, not forgive them and hold a grudge. personally I believe she hadn't made those comments and went natural anyways people would've made fun of her natural hair and say she looks like a slave, then these same black people would get mad at a non black person for trying to mimick natural hair and scream appropriation"
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39. Morgan :)
"didn't know she even said something bad about Natural hair and I forgive her. I do find it surprising because her Sorors and other ladies of the NPHC are natural so it was pretty shocking when she said that but as I digress I forgive her, she's my favorite comedian 💋💋 #TeamNatural #3YearsStrong"
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Sorors = a term used by members of historically Black Greek lettered sororities to mean "a sorority sister; a member of your sorority; members of other [historically Black Greek lettered] sororities; Note this term isn't used by historically predominately White sororities
NPHC= National Pan Hellenic Council - the governing body for the nine historically Black Greek lettered fraternities and sororities which are colloquially known as "the divine nine".
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40. honey bebe
"I don't understand why people are trippin over the fact that it took her two years to apologize. Do they not understand that most people don't fall in love with their natural hair as soon as they do the 'big chop'? My mother went natural seven years ago. For the first four years she wore wigs. It took her a long time to accept her hair. After learning how to care for and style it, she came to ADORE it! Appreciate the fact that she was big enough to apologize in public. Most wouldn't even do it in private -let alone at all."
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"trippin" = African American Vernacular English term meaning "getting upset about", "going crazy about"
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41. Kay-Marie
"Why is it cool when some of us wearing natural but it's not cool when we wear relaxed or weaved hair?"
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42. Shon Hubble
"Some people are too narrow-minded and think that weaves and relaxers contribute to some identity crisis or self esteem issue. Weaves are beautiful, natural is beautiful, everything! As long as you have love for yourself, you will always be real no matter what is altered or added on.
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43. Kay-Marie
"+Shon Hubble Well Said! I relax my hair and I love being black."
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44. AWizardMummyandMartian ImUnique
"It's funny because black girls are buying afro texture hair now too. I thought of it but it feels so rough."
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45. AWizardMummyandMartian ImUnique
"Please stopl calling them European textured wigs, most hair comes from Asians or Native American women."
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46. PanamericanistaM0R3Na
"There is nothing wrong with the way our hair curls and coils.
Embrace it."
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This concludes Part I of this four part series.
This post showcases the 2006 India Aire song "I Am Not My Hair" and provides the backstory about how that song came to be mentioned in an instagram that was written after the 2015 Oscar award event.
The content of this post is presented for informational, cultural, and aesthetic reasons.
All copyrights remain with their owners.
Thanks to Zendaya Coleman for her powerful comments and thanks to India Arie for her musical legacy. Thanks also to all those who are quoted in this post and thanks to the publisher of this video on YouTube.
The actress gave the fashion host a lesson on hair politics.
By: Yesha Callahan, Posted: Feb. 24 2015
"Over the last couple of weeks, Zendaya Coleman has been experimenting with different hairstyles. She’s worn a short pixie cut, which people clamored over, and during the Oscars she decided to opt for long dreadlock extensions. Although she received her fair share of compliments, Fashion Police host Giuliana Rancic said she felt like “she smells like patchouli oil and weed"...
E! hosts declared that she probably "smells like patchouli," or "weed."
By Victoria Dawson Hoff
"At the Oscars on Sunday, Zendaya Coleman paired her sleek Vivienne Westwood gown with a change-up in hairdo: After rocking a pixie cut just days before, the actress sported dreadlocks on the red carpet. She looked totally gorgeous, but like most others who walked the carpet, found herself subject to the commentary of E!'s Fashion Police on the show's special Oscars edition on Monday night—and subsequently, a major social media debate.
Giuliana Rancic mused that Zendaya's hair made her "feel like she smells like patchouli," before adding, "Or weed." The exchange promptly triggered an Internet firestorm as viewers slammed the hosts for being racially ignorant...
But then Zendaya took to Twitter herself to respond to all the controversy, noting that "there is a fine line between funny and disrespectful," and that there is already enough "harsh criticism of African American hair in society without the help of ignorant people." "To me," she stated, "Locs are a symbol of strength and beauty, almost like a lion's mane."
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Zendaya also wrote in her instagram about this incident:
"I suggest that some people should listen to India Aries :I am not my hair”and contemplate a little before opening up your mouth so quickly to judge."
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Click those links given above for a full story about this incident, including the apologies that the commenter gave to Zendaya and her other response to those apologies.
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SHOWCASE VIDEO: India.Arie - I Am Not My Hair ft. Akon
IndiaArieVEVO, Published on Jun 16, 2009
Music video by India.Arie performing I Am Not My Hair. (C) 2006 Motown Records, a Division of UMG Recordings, Inc.
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Sierra Mone, 2014
"India is not trying to imply dont like WHO you are by saying you are not your hair or skin. She just means that these things are features about you that should be of little importance when someone is trying to figure out WHO you are. Shes saying that its the soul Or the inside that really counts not just our outsides. In this society we tend to judge soley on looks but shes saying that there is more to us than meets the eye. Dont judge me based my hair or my skin color but on who I am inside."
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LYRIC EXCERPT "I AM NOT MY HAIR"
[Chorus]
I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am not your expectations no no
I am not my hair
I am not this skin
I am a soul that lives within
[Talking:]
What'd she do to her hair? I don't know it look crazy
I like it. I might do that.
Umm I wouldn't go that far. I know .. ha ha ha ha
[Verse 2]
Good hair means curls and waves
Bad hair means you look like a slave
At the turn of the century
Its time for us to redefine who we be
You can shave it off
Like a South African beauty
Or get in on lock
Like Bob Marley
You can rock it straight
Like Oprah Winfrey
If its not what's on your head
Its what's underneath and say HEY....
