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Tuesday, December 12, 2023

Negative Social Meanings That Are Associated With The Names "Karen", Brad", "Chad", And "Brandon" In The United States (Online Excerpts)

Edited by Azizi Powell

This pancocojams post presents selected excerpts from online articles about the negative social meanings that have become associated with the names "Karen", Brad", "Chad", And "Brandon" in the United States.

Selected comments on this subject from a YouTube video discussion thread are also included in this post.  

The content of this post is presented for socio-cultural purposes.

This post doesn't condone the use of names for mocking and insulting purposes. 

All copyrights remain with their owners.

Thanks to all those who are quoted in this post.
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Click these links for previous pancocojams posts on this subject: 

https://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2020/03/why-becky-and-karen-are-used-as.html "Why The Names "Becky" And "Karen" Are Used As Mocking/Insulting Social Referents For Certain Types Of White Females (information & comments)"

and 

https://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2020/06/the-social-meanings-in-united-states-of.html The Social Meanings In The United States Of The Names "Karen", "Becky", "Chad", "Kyle", & "Ken" 

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SELECTED ONLINE EXCERPTS 
These excerpts are given in no particular order and are numbered for referencing purposes only.
 
EXCERPT #1
From https://www.abc10.com/article/news/nation-world/karen-baby-name-plummets-popularity/507-93b87091-7c8b-40f3-8f64-91d0db8f1825 "The name 'Karen' keeps dropping in popularity amid recent stigma" Karen Baby Name Plummets In Popularity", Author: Douglas Jones, Published  June 2, 2021
"WASHINGTON — It's a sign of the times, yes, but it looks like the name "Karen" is fighting an uphill battle to stay mainstream.

It might not come as a surprise to many, as the name holds a certain vintage space in U.S. culture, since the height of its popularity back in the 1960s.

The popularity of the name Karen peaked in 1965, when it was the third-most popular name for baby girls born in the U.S. According to data from the Social Security Administration, there were 32,873 newborn girls named Karen that year, representing 1.799% of all female births in 1965.

Well, that status has plummeted since then and it really started to fall around the year 2000, showing a noticeable decline in popularity around 2010 and the years surrounding it.

In 2020, Karen ranked 831st on the list of most popular baby names in the U.S., falling 171 spots from its 2019 ranking as 660th most popular name. SSA data shows there were just 325 newborn girls named Karen in 2020, compared with 438 in 2019, 469 in 2018 and 552 in 2017.

The name hit its lowest ranking since 1929, according to the SSA.

The Social Security Administration compiles data on names according to registered Social Security number holders, and they have been doing so since 1879. Many people before 1937 never applied for Social Security cards so names during that time are not included in the data.

While the name Karen has certainly taken a big hit in the 21st century, overall it's still the tenth-most popular name for baby girls from 1921-2020.

[…]

The name of course has seen a sharp decline in recent years, no doubt in part, because of a string of incidents recorded and posted online of overbearing individuals in public deemed "Karens."

Last year, before Halloween, a Los Angeles-based artist sought to profit off the trend by creating what he called "Karen" masks.

Artist Jason Adcock make the scary masks with their distinctive stereotypical bob haircut and sold them on Instagram.

Adcock wrote in an Instagram post, "2020 is the year of the KAREN! Scare all ur friends with ur big hair and narrow mind."”…

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EXCERPT#2  
From 
https://zachl-quinn.medium.com/the-k-word-the-rise-and-fall-of-the-name-karen-from-1920-present-8c0d8c2bb745 "The K-Word: The Rise and fall of the name “Karen” from 1920 — present" by Zach Quinn,July 21, 2021
…."Although Karen was popular in the 1950s and 60s, when examining the most popular baby names of all-time, Karen doesn’t even make the top ten percent, which is dominated by enduing names like “Mary”, “Linda” and “Jessica.”

[…]

In 2020, according to Social Security Data, Olivia and Emma topped the list of most popular female baby names. However, neither name became popular until the mid 1980s, just as Karen’s popularity was waning.

[…]

Although Karen is no longer a popular baby name, in the past five years, the word has been repurposed as a pejorative to describe privileged white women. In fact, Google Trends now lists Karen as a pejorative.

[…]

Two other names, ”Becky” slang for a ‘basic’ woman and “Stacy”, a term used by “incels” to describe an unattainable woman, have undergone a similar (though less toxic) transition.”…

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EXCERPT #3
From https://medium.com/mel-magazine/how-brad-and-chad-became-synonyms-with-douchebag-3c2a516f1197 "How ‘Brad’ and ‘Chad’ Became Synonyms With ‘Douchebag’" by John McDermott, Oct 6, 2017
"One of the most frequent (and funniest) tropes on @5thYear, an Instagram account devoted to the drunken hijinks of college students, is outing a male college student for insufferable behavior, and labeling him a “Brad” for it.

[…]

Brad thinks he’s cooler than he is, tougher than he is, more attractive than he is, funnier than he is and more well-liked than he is.

[...]

Brad, quite simply, is a douchebag, which is why @5thYear includes the hashtag #DontBeABrad on every Brad-related post.

Brad isn’t alone in his douchebaggery, either — he’s joined by his cocky cousin Chad.

Satisfying as it is to see a Brad or Chad get his due, one wonders how the names came to be shorthand for a particular kind of college-age male — an arrogant, self-aggrandizing, frat bro — and what exactly the real Brads and Chads of the world think about their names being used as pejoratives.

According to Indiana University linguistics professor Michael Adams, the negative association we have with the names Brad and Chad is a story as old as America itself. Brad is often short for Bradford, which started as a surname and is of Scottish-English origin, Adams says, reading from A Dictionary of Surnames. In Old English, the name literally means “broad clearing.”

The name crossed the pond in the late 16th century with the establishment of the first English colonies on American soil. William Bradford was one of the original Pilgrims, coming to New England on the Mayflower, and eventually serving as governor of the Plymouth Colony. “I have no idea if he was a douchey Pilgrim, though,” Adams says.

Either way, over centuries, the name Bradford became synonymous with New England aristocracy — so much so that women with the maiden name Bradford started naming their sons Bradford, to advertise that they were from the Bradford lineage. “If you were descendents of the Bradfords, or if you wanted to make it seem like you were, you might use Bradford as the name of your son — so that when you sent him off to the Exeter Academy, people would make certain assumptions about who was,” Adams explains.

And somewhere along the line, that got shortened to Brad.

Chad has an even more circuitous journey into the modern lexicon. Like Bradford, it’s Anglo-Saxon, but it started as a first name: Ceadda (pronounced “chadda”). The most popular Ceadda in history is probably, Saint Ceadda, abbot of Lastingham, bishop of York and Lichfield and the man credited with “the Christianization of the ancient English kingdom of Mercia.” But today he’s known as Saint Chad, or Chad of Mercia. Sadly, reports on how often St. Chad got totally blasted on communion wine are unavailable.

From Ceadda came Chadwick, which was a rough portmanteau of Ceadda and “wick,” an Old English word for town, Adams says. Brits named their towns Chadwick, and then adopted Chadwick as their surname.

How Chadwick came to America is unclear, but Adams guesses the Chadwicks were among some of the earliest English settlers in America. And just like the Bradfords, they named their sons Chadwick to maintain the prestige of their bloodline. Eventually, it was truncated to Chad. “So by a very strange route, Chad went from a first name, to a town name, to a last name, back to being a first name, and now a nickname, in the case just Chad,” Adam says.

This lexical history explains why we tend to think of Brad and Chad as WASP-y, old money, prep school, New England bros — there’s a legitimate historical basis to the Brad/Chad stereotype.

But it wasn’t until recently that the names carried a negative connotation. Brad hit peak popularity in 2000, when it was the 632nd most popular baby name (for boys) in the U.S., according to the Social Security Administration. It’s steadily declined afterward, and fell out of the top 1,000 in 2008.

Chad, too, reached its cultural zenith in 2000, when it was the 236th most popular name for boys. But like Brad, by 2016, it had fallen out of favor, checking in at number 800. (Data for 2017 aren’t yet available.)

For his part, Adams has had several Brads and Chads in his Indiana University classroom. “The Brads and Chads I’ve taught have never been at the top of the class, grades-wise. They usually sit in the back of the classroom. And while I can’t give you accurate statistics on their fraternity participation, they were certainly that type,” he says. “So from my own impressions, I can confirm the value of the stereotype.”…

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EXCERPT #4
From  
https://www.familyeducation.com/naming-trends/bye-karen-and-brandon-why-baby-names-declined-in-popularity-in-2022 "Bye Karen And Brandon. Why Baby Names Declined In Popularity In 2022" by Elisa Cinelli, Updated June 28, 2022
"The US Social Security Administration (SSA) just released the top baby names for 2022 and it’s safe to say that Karen didn’t make the list last year. Social media names and internet trends have more impact on the public perception of names than ever. When names are used in place of a joke, meme, or insult, parents will obviously avoid them to prevent their baby boy or baby girl from being teased. Of course, names always go in and out of fashion, but it’s clear that name trends are changing faster than ever. What was a cool, unique name one day could be an embarrassing name to avoid just a few months later!

[…]

Girl Names That Are Losing Steam

Karen was already pretty low on the charts, hence why it has been associated with the archetype of a middle-aged woman (more on Karen below). This name's negative portrayal on social media has knocked it completely off the charts.

[…]

The Death of Karen as a Name

Karen was one of the most popular names for girls throughout the 1950s and 1960s. Celebrities like Karen Carpenter made this a popular pick among parents, and the popularity of the name Karen peaked in 1965 as the third most popular name among all baby girls born in the United States!

In recent years, the Karen archetype was born. “Karen” is an entitled middle-aged woman, who usually wants to speak to the manager. Whether she lives in a small town or a city like Atlanta or Manhattan, Karen leverages her privilege to get what she wants.

Karens can be irritating and infuriating, such as “coughing Karen“ who coughed on people in a New York City bagel shop.

At their worst, Karens can be downright racist, like the San Francisco woman who called the police on her non-white neighbor for writing “Black Lives Matter” in chalk on her own property or the Los Angeles woman who accused the black man behind her in line of stealing her phone only to find it right there in her purse where she put it.

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No one knows the first time that Karen was used but she has definitely become a staple this last year. Karen’s best friends Deborah and Susan share similar traits, hence a drop in those names as well.

Interestingly, Karen is actually one of the most popular names of all time. That‘s part of why her name is what it is--she‘s a typical, average, white woman. Karen has already been more of an older American name and it‘s likely that soon nobody younger than high school will answer to it.

Why Brandon is Declining as a Baby Name

Brandon has historically been a common name for American baby boys. It reached its peak in 1992, 1993, and 1994 when Brandon ranked as the 6th most popular name for male babies.

Since the 2010s Brandon’s popularity has been slowly declining, and the name saw a sharp drop for the first time this last year, and here’s the reason why:

The phrase “Let’s Go Brandon” became code for “F—k* Joe Biden) after a crowd chanted the latter at a small-town Alabama Nascar race. The crowd’s chants were initially misunderstood to say “Let’s Go Brandon” because they were happening while driver Brandon Brown was being interviewed after having won his first Xfinity Series.

After this mix-up, Republicans began using the phrase “Let’s Go Brandon” to insult both President Biden and the Democratic party in tweets, in pics on social media, and in more elaborate demonstrations as well.”…
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*This is the way this curse word was written in this article.

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EXCERPT #5
From https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hh0qXOOEA6Y  "Trump and MAGA suffer SELF-INFLICTED BLOW with Latest ATTACKS, Total PANIC MODE" published by Meidas Touch Network, Dec 11, 2023 [Pancocojams Editor- All of these comments are from December12, 2023. I added numbers to these comments for referencing purposes only.]

1. @thomaswrzalinski7454
"Thoughts and prayers to all the Chads and Brads out there who are having trouble working through their feelings right now.

** Reply 2. @bradmarner2056
"Wait, I’m Brad and I don’t have a problem…except for the repubs.😂"

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3. @bradhaley8432
"​@bradmarner2056 same for me as well"

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4. @thomaswrzalinski7454
"Footnote  [1] @bradmarner2056  has an exemption."

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5. @lisabradley5193
"Brad, now you know how every poor woman named Karen feels."

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6. @tolkienfan1972
"🤣🤣"

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7. @Bradleybrookwood
"Hey I'm a Brad and I'm as progressive as they come!"

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8. @mikebegonia6134
"Like this! Great! 'to all the Chads and Brads out there..."

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9. @RitaBowen1
"
@Bradleybrookwood there are exceptions to every rule 😂😅"

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Saturday, October 2, 2021

Video Of McKingley High School Marching Band & Majorette Dancers (Oct. 2020) with comments about African Americans wearing masks during the Covid-19 pandemic



TRIN, Oct. 31, 2020
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Statistics as of Oct. 2, 2021 at 3:33 PM ET
Total # of views - 1,229,505
Total # of likes -18K
Total # of dislikes - 615
Total # of comments - 457

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Edited by Azizi Powell

This pancocojams post is part of an ongoing series on African Americans wearing masks during the Covid-19 pandemic. Click that tag below to find other pancocojams posts in this series.

This post showcases an Oct. 31, 2020 YouTube video of McKingley High School's marching band and dance auxiliary (Oct. 31, 2020). 

Information about McKingley High School in Baton Rouge, Louisiana is also included in this post along with selected comments from that video's discussion thread.

This post also includes selected comments from that video's discussion thread about the band members and the dance line members wearing maks as a protection against Covid19 and other comments about Covid-19. Some additional comments about McKingley High School's marching band and dance line are also included in this post.

The content of this post is presented for historical, socio-cultural, entertainment, and aesthetic purposes.

All ccopyrights remain with their owners.

Thanks to all those who are associated with McKingley High School's marching band and its majorette dance auxiliary. Thanks to all those who are quoted in this post, and thanks to TRIN for this video.

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INFORMATION ABOUT MCKINGLEY HIGH SCHOOL
From https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MrGCIrpxHTI&ab_channel=TRIN

Numbers are added for referencing purpose only.

2020
1. Avery Adams
"
The thigh clap, hand clap, snap, then strut sequence at 2:38 😍"

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2. Reply
SevenSons
"That was sssoooo cute💙💙🐾🐾Ⓜ️Ⓜ️Ⓜ️🔥🔥"

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3. Alex F, 2021
"Took me OUT. I screamed “y’all better!”"

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2021

4. Ange Aesthetics_Vlogs
"I love you pantherettes"

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5. Keya Pitts
"Okayyyy....I love these young ladies.....their style is like the Southern University Dancing Dolls.😍"

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6. Kaila Simmons
"Yes ma’am, the coach of the pantherettes was a captain of the SU dancing dolls in 2017."
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Southern University is a public historically Black university in Baton Rouge, Louisana. Here's a quote about McKingley High School's Pantherettes' coach [with the video's "titles" given as hyperlinks]
 https://www.mckinleyhighbr.org/m/pages/index.jsp?uREC_ID=411384&type=d
"Danielle Stamper - Former 2 year captain of the Southern University Fabulous Dancing Dolls

Click below to see her in action. 

Leading the band into the stadium https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bbs1Ob1tXEY&ab_channel=SUFabulousDancingDolls [Jan 9, 2018]

Whiskey https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qwVsN3tW6WU&ab_channel=MarvinPrice [Sept. 10, 2017]

SU Homecoming https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h_ozUK5NyfE&t=50s&ab_channel=MarvinPrice [Oct. 22, 2016]"
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From some YouTube comments that I read (which I didn't retrieve), McKinley High School is one of the main high schools nationwide from which members of  HBCU marching bands and its dance line auxiliaries come.

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7. Yolanda A
"The girls look better than several colleges! I had to look at the title again. High school? They did a magnificent job. Whoever is teaching them is the truth!"

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8. coolernie65
"The drum major looks like he was born and bred for Southern University."
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The videographer wrote that the drum major is in the 10th grade.

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9. Kevin Smith 
"Bruh what happened to BR bands?! They just have one Tuba? Seriously? Just a few years back MCK had a decent size band taking on that band from DC and now they're the size of a pep band lol. I wish it was like when I was in high school in the 90s. MCK, Glen Oaks, Capitol, and Istrouma had deep bands and had a whole culture behind it. Idunno maybe these band directors need to start doing some recruiting or something🤷🏾‍♂"

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10. Latoya Brown
"I think they might have gotten under funded when the government  was doing cuts to arts and music programs."

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11. Kevin Smith
" @Latoya Brown  wow😳. If that's the case then that's truly sad for all students not just the bands"

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12. Stacey Holland, 
"Who is their Coach????  Amazing...Hats OFF...Completely classy and percise.  Just clean😍🥰..the break off into 4😍😍"

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13. YuTasha Johnson
"McKinley was actually the first high school for the Black community here in Baton Rouge. It was my parents', aunts & uncles alma mater."

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14. Manny's Millennial Mouth
"
They looking like a Squad of On The Run Beyoncés with these masks😍

I love the Aesthetics"

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15. Cherry MARRY
"What do you call this Type of dance?"

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16. TRIN
"HBCU Majorette"

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17. ladiadalton
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They are better than most colleges"

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18. Janine Villasenor
"These ladies  and gentleman are amazing, and the fact they still perfecting their craft despite Covid is all the more impressive, Congrats and best wishes! 💖"


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19. Anjie Rose
"If those girls can do that routine in masks,  then all men must stop complaining."

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20. MorseeInHD
"Mostly woman complaining

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21. Vero vè
"
Why just men?"

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22. Charley Taylor
"There is Karen’s that complain bit ok"
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From https://www.dictionary.com/e/slang/karen/ "What does Karen mean"
"Karen is a pejorative slang term for an obnoxious, angry, entitled, and often racist middle-aged white woman who uses her privilege to get her way or police other people’s behaviors."...

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23. Kween Alize
"How about all the men marching and playing heavy instruments wearing their mask? Its equal. Everyone is doing their part."

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24. Kween Alize
"Its equally as difficult to march in time with everyone, carry heavy instruments, play them while marching, and remember the routine. The men and women are both leading."

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25. ClaytonMatthews
"I'm an All-star Cheerleader and I can say it's not easy doing heavy breathing with a mask but it shows that no one should have an excuse not too."

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26. Amaya Eke
"
You can’t play a flute or clarinet or any reeded instrument with a mask or any instrument really"

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27, leels
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men and women do routines in masks, men and women complain about wearing masks"

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28, Marshal Stamey
"notice how everyone is wearing a mask and performing. not just the ladies lol"

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29. 4K PRODUCTIONZ
"Usually woman complaining 🤣🤣🤣"

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30. Jay Bird
"What about everyone?"

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31. Cintya Enciso
"It's a shame that you can't see the smiles on the ladies faces doing their routine.  Proud and smiling is how the drill team always performed. They sure made those masks fit well to their uniforms. They looked very pretty and professional."

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32. omar k
"I know you miss the crowd. Keep doing what you're doing and I'm proud of all your hard work"
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This comment implies that this high school football game was played without people in attendance because of Covid-19.

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33. A Brandie Motley Film
"Black women are just so beautiful! Even in a face mask!"

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34. King Doc
"Patterned after Black Universities. Nice"

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35. Earl Ferry
"when I went there the band was fire and referred to as the baby jukebox"
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Southern University's marching band's name is "The Human Jukebox". Therefore, the nickname "baby jukebox" is a high compliment to McKinley's marching band.

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36. maxine daniel
"Dat captain sis u be slaying hahaha"
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The videographer and publisher of this video wrote that the captain’s name is Shelbie.

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37. Kayla Bell
"Where is this high school from because everyone is on point and I love the color coordinations they did with the masks. And they're coming in like JSU SONIC BOOM OF THE SOUTH LOVE IT 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾"
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JSU= Jackson State University, Jackson, Mississippi.

"Sonic Boom Of The South" is the name of that university's marching band.

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TRIN
38. "
Baton Rouge, LA"

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39. TheCman215
"Their drum major literally wearing sweatpants as his uniform"

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40. Rodney Player
"TheCman215 didn't even notice. Still looks good and he's a good DM also."

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41. TRIN
"Real pants were delayed due to COVID."

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42. Manny's Millennial Mouth
"u studying the video WAY too hard"

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43. Beenthere Donethat
"
I do love their sparkling masks"

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44. Gabriela Portillo
"I almost didn't even notice the masks..."

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45. dabbiee
"I can't  stop watching  it its soo good especially  the dancers why don't  we have this in the UK"

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46. Kenyetta Doyle
" @Ellieee  They are not cheerleaders."

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47. Dennis Crosby
"if these girls can bring this amount of THUMP in masks, then you can walk into a restaurant with one, Karen"
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This is a diss on privileged always falsely complaining women who are called “Karens”.

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Tuesday, July 7, 2020

The REAL Meaning Of "Invited To The Cookout" In African American Culture

Edited by Azizi Powell

This is Part I of a two part pancocojams series on the meaning in African American culture of the phrase "invited to the cookout" [or the BBQ] and disinvited to (or banned from) the cookout (or BBQ).

Part I provides definitions, comments, and article excerpts about the African American meaning of the phrase "invited to the cookout" (also given as invited to the BBQ" or disinvited to the cookout/BBQ".) 

Click 
https://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2020/07/what-disinvited-to-cookout-means-in.html for Part II of this pancocojams series. Part II provides comments and excerpts about the phrase "disinvited to the cookout" (also given as disinvited to or banned from the cookout/BBQ". 

The content of this post is presented for socio-cultural and linguistic purposes.

All copyrights remain with their owners.

Thanks to all of those who are quoted in this post.
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Click https://pancocojams.blogspot.com/2020/07/comments-about-excerpts-of-articles.html for the closely related 2020 pancocojams post entitled "
Comments About & Excerpts Of Articles About "Karen" & The "Raisins In Potato Salad" Memes".

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PANCOCOJAMS EDITOR'S EXPLANATION OF "THE  COOKOUT" /"THE BBQ" AS USED IN AFRICAN AMERICAN CULTURE
"The Cookout (or "the BBQ") in the context of African American culture is a reference for actual informal social events as well as the concept of informal spaces where Black people can relax, let down our guard, and “be [for] real”.  According to this concept, those feelings are possible  because the only people who are in those spaces are other Black people and possibly some non-Black people who have proven that they are our allies (i.e. They have Black people's well-being at heart.) 

African Americans may disagree which non-Black people have earned invitations to "the Cookout" (for that year).and which African Americans and/or other Black people have been dis-invited to the Cookout (for that year) and/or which African Americans and other Black people have been permanently banned from the Cookout. 

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COMMENTS & ARTICLE EXCERPTS
(Numbers are added for referencing purposes only)


Excerpt #1
From 
https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/invited-to-the-cookout
added and updated by Matt, 2019

" 'Invited to the Cookout' is an expression used to describe [an informal social gathering attended by members of]* the African American community, exclusively. However, the phrase is often [also] used to describe [an African American informal social gathering that is also attended by]* an outsider who has shown themselves to be an ally of or friend to African Americans. The phrase has also been used to [refer to informal social gatherings by African Americans which] exclude members [of the African American community] that have expressed opinions that are antithetical to the interests of the community.
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Pancocojams Editor's Note: I added the words in brackets to enhance/correct the meaning of these statements.


[...]

Origin
While it's likely that the expression had been used offline, the phrase was first used on the internet on February 29th, 2019 [date correction 2016]. That day, the hashtag #WhitePeopleInvitedToTheCookout trended. That day, Twitter[1] user @_BushidoB_ tweeted, "#WhitePeopleInvitedToTheCookout Leonardo DiCaprio, Betty White, Justin Timberlake, Paul Wall, Steve Nash (feel free to add to the list)." The tweet received more than 800 likes and 500 retweets in three years (shown below)

Spread
That day, Twitter[2] user @MartelDHarris tweeted a photograph of Adele and the caption "#WhitePeopleInvitedToTheCookout when I saw Adele do her hand like this, I knew I could fix her a plate." The tweet received more than 19,000 likes and 16,000 retweets in three years (shown below, left). Throughout the day, others shared versions of the meme (examples below, center and right).

[...]

#WhitePeopleInvitedToTheCookout
None. Them and their dry assed potato salad can go back
where they came from"
1:00 am 29 Feb. 2016"...
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Excerpt #2
From 
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/invitations-to-the-cookout-have-now-been-rescinded_b_59e644e4e4b0e60c4aa365ad “Invitations To The Cookout Have Now Been Rescinded”
Our criteria for entry have just become more strict.
by Isis Miller , 10/17/2017; Updated Oct 24, 2017
“The cookout is a long-standing tradition in the African American community dating back to God knows when. It’s a non-holiday specific, (although they do often coincide with such holidays as Labor Day and MLK Day), where Black families and friends gather for barbecue, spades games with trash-talking drunk uncles, aunty rivalries over who made the best dish, Luther Vandross blasting on the radio, and carefree Blackness at its peak. It’s the safety of belonging. It’s where you can let your guard down and simply be without having to swat at the incessant stings of microaggressions. It’s the place where no code switching is necessary because it’s just you and your tribe. It is being home in your skin with your kin.

But on occasion you will find that there is a white person at these gatherings. It is assumed that said white person is “down,” the precursor to what we now call being “woke.” They have earned their invitation usually by having grown up with the family, dated someone in the family, or simply having been around long enough to have been properly vetted. They know the etiquette and the rules. They don’t say the n-word, even when its part of the song. They don’t show up with some strange casserole. They bring a liquor of some sort (Hennessy being the obvious choice). And they certainly don’t invite other white people. And if anything were to go down they know it would be their duty to speak to the police, using their privilege for the good of those who lack it. They are simply happy to be there and we are happy to include them on the fun and maybe even send them home with a plate. These recipients of the illustrious cookout invite were the original allies.

These cookouts have, in popular culture, become synonymous with our lives, our social justice movements, our sacred spaces, our places of respect. So when a white person puts aside prejudice, stands up against racism, and uses their whiteness for good, someone on Twitter will announce that they are “invited to the cookout.” They can sit with us. They can join the spades game (as long as they don’t renege). They can electric slide their way into the inner circle of Blackness, status pending.

But that’s over. It’s cancelled.

And all because of this foolishness:
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This is why we can’t have nice things.

The theoretical (and very much literal) cookouts we’ve been hosting for generations, our sacred sites of unadulterated, live-out-loud Blackness are being threatened by the forces of gentrification. We are about to become a minority at our own events. Because just like every slogan, trend, movement and hashtag we create, it is then coopted, commodified, and watered down until it is unrecognizable or unredeemable. Because it is never enough for white people to simply be happy as a spectator. They must own, take up space, profit from Black culture, Black creativity, Black genius. And even when they serve up poor and borderline insulting imitations of us, they are given the credit.

Yet, we as Black folks are partly to blame. This is what happens when we hold White “allies” to the lowest possible standard of human decency and start passing out invitations to the places in our movement, our community, and our lives without understanding that being an ally is not static, it is action. It not comfortable and it is not stagnant. It is putting in the work to unlearn behaviors, while confronting those in your family and social circle about their own behaviors. It isn’t asking Black people to teach you or offer suggestions, as there are already guidelines on how to do this work. But this is the outcome when white people are allowed to speak for us within our own movements. Its what happens when we allow this notion of “solidarity” and “unity” to lull us into a false sense of security in thinking our interests and well being will be centered. Its what happens when white mediocrity is rewarded and heaped with praise. The places that have long since been for us become colonized.

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Nope. I’m not here for it anymore. The cookout is getting too damn crowded. The caucasity will reach new heights and next thing you know they are going to start bringing artisanal cheeses and unsweetened tea. Spades will be replaced with backgammon. The wobble will be replaced by the hockey pockey. Barry White will be replaced by Bruce Springsteen. Red Velvet cake will be replaced with some dry ass bundt cake. This is not the world I want to live in.

Once again, it is time we reevaluate how we protect our magic and our spaces. … it is important to be ever more vigilant. So while I do believe that white allies exist and are necessary to the success of movements for social justice, it will take more than lip service and bomb ass potato salad to get into the cookout.

And though I am guilty of inviting Colleen Dag (a.k.a “Becky Knuckles”) over for a plate ― a decision by which I still stand ― until stricter protocols are put in place, any and all invitations will be under further review.

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Excerpt #3
From 
https://www.theroot.com/white-folks-can-t-just-come-to-the-cookout-because-they-1792357577  "White Folks Can’t Just Come to the Cookout Because They Perform Blackness" by Michael Arceneaux, 2/16/2017
"Whenever a white person does something remotely decent related to black people or black culture—be it displaying basic decency or performing some act with competence—a chorus of Negroes will declare, “They can come to the cookout!”

For our new white readers, “the cookout” is essentially what most of us across these United States refer to as a barbecue, though there are other culinary equivalences that amount to the same thing (black folks gathering for food, liquor and celebration as only we can): say, a crawfish boil, a fish fry or something similar. So, when someone of African lineage extends an invite to someone melanin-deficient to the metaphorical cookout, they’re more or less saying you’re cool enough to hang with us now.

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Maybe living in Habanero Hitler’s America has me more skeptical than ever, but I do know a lot of you beloved black people need to quit sipping pickle juice and calling it Champagne. Stop doing this cookout thing for every sixth white person. Hell, not even all black people deserve to come ’round us.

When they open the door for you, just say thank you. If they have rhythm, cute for them. When they don’t shout a slur at you in anger, just thank Black Jesus that you don’t have to catch a case. When they call out racism, nod. It’s the least they could do. Don’t tell them to bring napkins to the fake cookout.


It is Black History Month. Do better! Be more selective. Most of all, remember that they probably voted for you-know-who or, at the very least, know someone who did and ate their casserole anyway."

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Excerpt #5
From https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hzMzFGgmQOc&feature=emb_logo "Black Jeopardy with Chadwick Boseman - SNL" posted by Saturday Night Live, April 7, 2018
These comments were posted in that video's discussion thread between April 12-April 16, 2018
1. hulagirl67"**BLACK COOKOUT RULES AND REGULATIONS**1) Don't arrive until at least 75-90 minutes after the start time designated on the invitation.
2) Don't come empty-handed.


3) NOBODY gets a plate before Big Mamma.


4) DJ must dos --> "Before I Let Go" by Maze, "Love Like This" by Faith Evans, and "Summertime" by Fresh Prince


5) Be prepared to Wobble.


6) Pros only at the spades table. This is for your own protection.


7) Don't go into the house unless you have to pee.


8) Don't expect for your chair to still be unoccupied when you return.


9) Only great aunts are allowed to fux with the potato salad so no need to keep asking if anyone knows who made it.


10) For you take homers: If they did not come, put in on the food, or help in any way, they do NOT get a plate. PERIOD."



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2. Jackeline Frost

"hulagirl67 as a black person I confirm this true"



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3. Zion, The Person

"As a fellow black person, I can also confirm this."



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4. Esohe Osaghae

"These should be official rules, number 4 is so true"



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5. Eastside Sage

"💯% Accurate"



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6. miggie2099
"you need to put this on a plate or wall scroll and sell it for $10"

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7. Aaron Verico1
"On everything this list is true. Lol.
I'll also add that dominos apply as well, that only pros can play at the table, at Black cookouts.
The stakes get even higher, if alcohol drinking is involved.
The sh&t*-talking and putdowns go to another level. That's definitely been the case, with my dad, uncles, and some of my dad's friends at the table. Lol.

I would also add "Outstanding" by the Gap Band; as a must-play song at Black family reunions, or cookouts.
I wish my fam would have more of them. They're always a blast. 💯"
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*This word is fully spelled out in that comment in that YouTube discussion thread.

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8. InuMiroLover
"Kids must dance for the entertainment of their elders and they dont get anything but hamburgers and hot dogs."

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9. julez4002
"4. September - Earth Wind Fire not Karen's cousin Taylor Smith."

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10. chocprincess7
"Facts. Lol !"

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11. C1rcu1tBr34k3r
"Funny how this is Universal across the nation."

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12. Some Guy
"Black guy here. The list is legit."

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13. Candie P
"Lmaooo. Number 10 is right on the money in my family 🤣🤣🤣"

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14. Rohan Davey
"For #4, don't forget the Cha Cha Slide

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15. Raj Beekie
"I don't think the last one is well known. If it is, it is not often precticed."
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"Precticed" is probably a typo for "practiced"

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16. Mia Moore
"Pretty accurate but for number 4 I would add "Candy" by Cameo that's Always played"

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17. Lena Sabine
"And white people must be chaperoned by a FAMILY Member of the HOSTING parties [such as] Mama or aunt Donna."

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18. SketchCat !!!
"hulagirl67 you forgot That once you get there you better speak to everybody (which means whoever see you) before eating and let them say ‘you got big last time I saw you you was thiiiiissss 👌🏾 small huh baby Child”"

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19. Kindell Armstrong
"Theses are unspoken yet iron clad rules never to be broken. If sed rules are broken then the US black councils will revoke your black card and your children’s black card for up to 3 generations."

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20. A Paddy
"You forget to add The Gap Band - Outstanding to the playlist."

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21. Ahmasi
"You forgot that children are only allowed to eat hot dogs and hamburgs. Don't ask for a rib or steak."

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22. PrincessAshley121
"Yea, Um... I'm from a Jamaican family and I cannot relate to any of this at all. Sorry l;"

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23. Sheryl Smallwood
"Quick question- when you bring something, can it be from another culture (ex: Chilean/Argentian Empenadas) or does it have to be American food? Asking for a friend."

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24. Ahmasi
"Sheryl Smallwood It depends. But as long as it was approved by both the host and the cook ( They aren’t always the same person) ahead of time, you should be golden"

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25. frogers3
"Your list is suspect from rule 1. Who in the hell sends invitations to a black cookout? Everyone who hears about it just shows up!!!"
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Explanation for rule #3 - "Big Mama" is a term for the matriarch of the family (the oldest woman in the family) -This informal referent is used by some but definitely not all African Americans.

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Explanation for rule #5 - "Wobble" = a line dance that is usually performed at African American weddings and get-togethers.

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Explanation for rule #6- "Spades" a card game that is popular among many African Americans

Explanation for the comment given as #9: The name "Karen" in the comment "Karen's cousin Taylor Swift" is a general referent for a White woman and not the name used to refer to  self-entitled and often racist White women who calls the manager or police on Black people (and sometimes also other people) for trivial reasons.

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